Sometimes we need a darn good excuse to create necessary changes in our lives!
Have you ever tried to start a car with a completely flat battery? No matter how often you turn the key and pump the accelerator, nothing happens. With sheer frustration you know you’ll have to do something different to get it going. You take out the jumper leads, attach one end to the dead battery, the other to a healthy car battery and try again. Miraculously the engine splutters to life and with a few good revs you’re away.
This is exactly how it is when you’re bogged down and can’t see a way out. We all have dreams and aspirations of things we’d like to achieve if only…. Yet for all sorts of reasons we procrastinate and put it off, waiting for a better time to do what it takes.
Maybe you’re waiting until you’ve got more time, more money or the children have left home. Perhaps your job or partner provide convenient excuses that let you off the hook so you don’t feel compelled to even start your next big thing. What’s more, if you don’t even start, you can’t fail and we often go to great lengths to avoid failure.
Yet, if you wait until everything in your life is ‘just right’, you may have missed the window of opportunity. Putting off until tomorrow that which can be started today will only prolong your frustration, dissatisfaction and discontent. Regret becomes an inevitable outcome.
If this sounds like you, then look no further. What you need is a ‘defining moment’ – something that converts your dream into a goal – one that you’re so compelled to achieve nothing can stand in your way. What your dream needs is a ‘defining moment jumpstart’.
What’s a Defining Moment?
Defining moments are life redesign triggers. They are catalysts that create change, breathing life into your idea and energy into your motivation.
Defining moments can be profound events that simply happen. Remember that moment when you locked eyes across a crowded room with that one person you knew would change your life? Serendipity, karma and pure chance create these encounters, often when you need them most.
Defining moments can be good or bad – either way you know that life will never be the same from this moment on. These include life milestones such as finishing school. Life unavoidably changes following the birth of a child, the death of a loved one or the argument that ended a toxic relationship. These all mark the end of a chapter of your life and start of a new one. When these events are seemingly bad, we reject them with every ounce of our being until we can no longer ignore the reality that they happened.
Defining moments often happen instantaneously. Receiving the news that you’ve been successful in a job interview for that role you really want provides a moment in time where you look forward to the future with excitement. Although your fingers were crossed and you desperately hoped you’d get the job, there were no guarantees and you didn’t want to get your hopes up. Often triggered by contrived serendipity, the law of attraction often creates these defining moments.
Defining moments can take on a ‘slow burn’. When the seed of an idea is planted by a seemingly inconsequential event, it grows and grows until it can no longer be ignored. This is what happened to Steve after a chance encounter with an elderly stranger on a railway station lead to numerous adventure travels. (You can read Steve’s story in The Great Life Redesign).
How to Recognize and Use Defining Moments to Get Going
- Look back on your life and make a list of all the major changes that have occurred along the way. Notice what the particular defining moment was for each event and why that was the catalyst that set a string of future events in motion.
- Once you’ve got a long list, take stock of your life right now. What needs to change? What would you like to change, if only you could?
- Identify recent events that may provide the ideal reason to create your desired change.
- Where something else needs to happen to clear the way for your dream, work out what three steps you need to take and take the first one.
- Tell people! Once you’ve got your perfectly good reason lined up, use it to explain why you’re making this change.
- Now you’ve jumpstarted you’re next big thing, don’t look back. Focus on the future, keep your foot on the accelerator and do whatever it takes to redesign your life, knowing it all started with that one defining moment.
Have you ever had a ‘defining moment’ – something that changed your life forever? Share it here on our Great Life Redesign Facebook page or in the comments below. I’d love to hear about it and who knows, you may inspire someone else to take that first step.